I was a first-year school counselor standing at the front door greeting students as they walked into school for the day. A new second grader approached me and asked for a snack. I noticed right away that she looked unkempt - her clothes were dirty and her hair was matted. I had some treats in my office and asked her to join me. When we arrived at my office, she ate and asked if she could tell me a secret. She then shared that her mom had been gone all weekend and left her in her room to watch TV ... VIEW POST
Child Abuse Prevention Resources for Educators
Test Anxiety & Test-Taking Skills for Elementary Learners
An overwhelmed, exhausted, and overworked 3rd grade teacher walked into my office. It was April - standardized testing season. With panic in her voice, she shared that she was up all night worrying about whether she had prepared her students well enough for THE TEST. Had she done enough intervention with Sally, or had she reviewed sufficiently with the whole class? If her students didn’t do well, what did that mean about her as a teacher? Despite her best efforts each and every day, was she ... VIEW POST
Helping Children Cope with Anger
Into my office stomped an obviously upset fourth grader: his fists were clenched, his face was as red as his shirt, and his body was trembling. Behavior is communication, and it’s not uncommon for kids who have trouble handling emotions to lose control. Just like adults, kids experience big emotions as they navigate through life, one of the strongest of which is anger. Anger is one of our most basic emotions and although it is often seen as a negative feeling, it does serve a purpose. Anger ... VIEW POST
Helping Children Cope with Grief and Loss
I'll never forget the phone call from my best friend, my precious student DeShawn's kindergarten teacher. She explained, through tears, that DeShawn and his sweet older sister Deja had rode the bus home from school like they did every day, expecting to see their mom waiting for them at the bus stop. When she wasn't there, they walked home and knocked on the front door. No one answered. They decided to go to their next door neighbor's house, who kept a key to their home in case of emergency. The ... VIEW POST
Winter School Counseling & SEL Books
I've shared many times before that just about every one of my counseling lessons, with every elementary grade that I taught, began with a story book. Stories captivate students and teach memorable, relatable, and powerful lessons like nothing else can. When I created my curriculum map in August with my lesson topics and ideas for the year, I tried to be really intentional about choosing stories that were relevant and meaningful for students during each season of the school year. I wanted to ... VIEW POST
Teaching Peaceful Problem-Solving Skills with I-Messages
Teaching students how to use I-Messages was one of my most important lessons as a school counselor. I wanted my students to be peaceful problem-solvers who could confidently address issues themselves rather than turning to a teacher (ugh tattletaling!) or making a sad choice. I loved how I could teach my students how to use I-Messages in class or group, and they could leave my room with a new practical skill that they could use that very same day with their friends and family members. ... VIEW POST
